How They View You is How They Treat You | How Men View Women | The 5 Categories
If you really think about it, we all know how we want to be treated. The problem is we don’t always do the best job spotting and sticking with the people who want to give us that treatment. Not people we have to beg or strong arm but people who genuinely want to treat us right.
The bottom line is people will only give you certain kinds of treatment when they view you a certain kind of way. In other words, they will only give you high end treatment when they view you as worthy of that treatment. Many women spend way too much time trying to convince a man of their worth or thinking the more they invest in a man the more he will invest in them. instead of just being the best version of themselves and learning to spot the men who appreciate that.
And that’s been the point of this dream girl and category content – to give my ladies a few pointers on how to assess how a man views you so you can avoid having your time wasted, learn to go where you’re wanted and get the treatment you want without the begging, convincing and tap dancing. If you haven’t realized already understanding these categories is for you, not for him.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSBjthqxiR8
I’m not even dating at the moment but this is the kind of content that will save women YEARS of wasted time and heartache! These breakdowns were exquisite. You really have a unique way of explaining things so they click. Had to share it my girls’ group chat! Hope this message gets to every woman that needs it!
Thank you, darling! My goal is to save women a much headache, heartache and stress as possible! Cheers to you for sharing with your girls, sounds like you’re a great friend 😘
Me too ! I definitely shared
Yes I was thinkingthe same, I just discovered her and immediately subscribed cause this information & her delivery is everything 🙌🏾 ❤
Raise your priceee!!! He who finds a wife finds a GOOD thing periodtt
And her price is far above. Rubies smooches 💋
@@chels5614 You know righttt
@@Rozallthingsfeminine Tell them!
AND obtains favor from the Lord! Amen church 👏🏾
Raise your price! Thank you, as always, for your great videos.
If you aren’t the one for him, he simply isn’t the one for you. We don’t use force, we move forward. Period.
Well said.
Yes mam
Thisssss❤
Exactly this! So many women try to convince a man of their worth instead of choosing to move on to a man who values them, no convincing required.
Yall make it seem so simple not to sound* rude but what if ya married already then what it’s not always that simple
Remember ladies another man good times girl, good enough girl, desperate girl, out of my league girl is another man dream girl
Yes, go where you are loved, valued and respected.
Okay! 👏🏽
agree…..
Yuppppp
Yep, your soul mate will see you as the prize!! Never forget!!
I have a history of dating men who chased me for years crying and begging. I didn’t like them at all, but I thought I was making a safe choice by giving a chance to a man who is clearly below my league, who will worship me and stay on his toes working hard to please me. But the moment I give them a chance, their worshipping behaviour gets replaced by controlling behaviour. 💀
you and me both. Mine turned out a sociopath narcissist and used every chance to try and crush my self esteem and sense of worth
Relatable
Did this and I’ll never EVER do it again. Those types of men are ugly inside and out. Not worth the trade off.
@@bellah33Same. But I really don’t know any other way of making sure that I only accept dates from guys who want me badly enough, who don’t see me as a second choice.
Happened to me in Italy last month! As soon as we had ‘seggs’, he turned to me and asked me “Who’s the boss?”. I was stunned. But I responded “I am”. He started an argument right then and there, trying to convince me that he had to be “in control”. Needless to say, I told him where to shove his ‘control’ and dumped him. He started a smear campaign against m the next day! He totally ruined the impression I had about Italian men. Traumatic does not begin to describe how it felt. But I am proud of me, because I did not give him the emotional response he craved. I iced him completely and did not respond or react. Drove that demonic psychopath nuts! Trust your gut. And NEVER EVER lower your standards. You’ll regret it.
A lot of men settle for the “good enough girl” as their starter wife until they can afford their “dream girl” as their dream wife.
Absolutely! That’s why it’s so important for women to watch how they’re treated. One thing I hear when exes see the man interact with his dream woman is “he never did that for me” “he never did that when we were together.” _Watch_ _what_ _he_ _does_
@TheFeminineUniverse if he treats you like a work horse and roommate who is required to split bills with him and receive no consistent romance… you’re unknowingly being used to build him up for his future dream wife once he’s established and in a midlife crisis.
This is very very true. Lots of exes settle with very basic girls
Oh. Why the dream girl gonna be attracted to this man, who once abused another women? I know, maybe it’s a naive question, but isn’t it make a man completely disgusting and unattractive?
@@NewBlooomNot naive. The women never see the guy as bad till he exposes that stressful situation
If he doesn’t see your worth, let go and another man will. And just because he doesn’t see your worth, it doesn’t lower your value.
But if nobody sees you “worth”
Maybe they’re not the problem
What if you dont have any real worth
@@EchadLevShtim true 💯
@@EchadLevShtim Then stay single and work on yourself. Still not a reason to be with someone who sees you as a second class human being.
It’s also not always about not seeing your value …. Is just the fact that whatever you have he doesn’t necessarily like and he is just keeping you around. Easy fix respect yourself enough to know he doesn’t love you and move on
The danger of The Dreamgirl is many horrible men will love bomb beautiful sensitive women only attempt to tear and break them down once they feel they have you. I think the ideal love has sincere acceptance, interest, respect, and prioritization.
Outta-leagues are the ones getting love-bombed & psychologically abused
Read the Five Components Of Love by Princella The Queenmaker
I’ve been subject to this a few times
They’re afraid to love, because once people see the losers they are, they leave after awhile, so they want to be the one’s to leave first to protect their heart, or keep themselves distanced. To both of you a favor and leave first. That’s why they pre-plan temporary admirations, not relationships.
Lord I went from dream girl to desperate girl after that idiot finished with my head. He left. Guess whose the dream girl again 😅😅😅
Never date down! I just realised I was the out of his league girl when every sentence was exactly a situation I was in. When you date down and he treats you as how it’s described, it will diminish you to the desperate category. It feels horrible. Inscure men will always find a way to make you feel like the desperate girl and once you wake up you will realize you’re not too needy and break up. It’s genuinely refreshing.
Agreeee she described it to the T
People generally try to make you feel how you make them feel. If they feel insecure and like they are not good enough they’ll try to make you feel insecure and not good enough, if they feel unworthy and like a failure they’ll try and make you feel that way. It doesn’t matter that you don’t do anything to make them feel that way, is how they feel, not your fault, not your problem, RUN from that person, because eventually, maybe after they willing or unwillingly take you apart, they themselves will be the ones leaving.
Yess!! As I watched the video, I realized that’s exactly what happened to me too. I went from the out of his league girl to the desperate girl because he was trying to break me due to his own jealousy and resentment
@@winterbutterfly8861 100&. I had this experience and I’ve always felt like I’m the problem, when I actually think about what REALLY is the problem, I couldnt figure it out.
@@winterbutterfly8861lol stop. If you feel like nothing- literally nothing will change that until the person changes. Just like there are people you can’t make feel bad because they’re complete with themselves. I can’t not make you something you never were 😂 and vise versa
You don’t want a man who gets jealous and envious over your success and fame. You want a man who gets happy and proud over your success.
I’ve had a male friend that was like this yikes
And/or support you towards your success ❤
This is true and hard to find.
Are you heterologous
That’s okay, but do you expect em to be the breadwinners or you? A spouse should support you according to what success fits you in a marriage. Women should not neglect their roles as mothers and wives, and if success interferes with that, she needs to question what’s important, what is her purpose?
Truth be told, I’ve been all of them, I’m every woman. But over time I learned to just sit back in my own life and energy and see who and what chooses ME.
Yeap thats all about! Backup……enjoy the ride…. let good things come to way
@@lourivalchavezbatista5344I agree
Life….time….wisdom.
❤❤❤❤ periodt!!
Yes, stay in your feminine energy of attracting and receiving
The most valuable thing I learnt from my abusive relationship with my ex husband was too never give men with low self-esteem and a weak mindset a chance. You have one life, just don’t bother wasting it on men like this. They have very deep rooted confidence issues that makes them become a narcissistic, fearful, doubtful, controlling and aggressive individual. Always observe carefully how they behave in stressful situations. A weak man will rely on you, make you fix the problem, blame you for inconveniences, get short tempered etc. A man with a strong mindset will think about solutions, be calm and rational, prioritise where and what to waste his energy on and think about your wellbeing. Also, observe the type of friendships/relationships (past and present) he has with those around him (parents, friends, colleagues). Their surroundings are very telling of the type of person they are. Either be with people who are at your level or are slightly above you. It can be very challenging if they are very below or very above your level.
I was in an relationship like that, I finally found my way out and I am healing.
Epic insight.
@@akilahmorris6154the same, and he wants me now back after 5 jears
As a DV/SA survivor I can attest to all this. Men will treat us as we were taught to be treated by our primary care givers, and according to our unresolved traumas.
I remember giving chances to low value men out of pity and coercion and it was the biggest mistake, cuz people think that a “less” good looking guy will treat us better and is not true. They feel empowered cuz a high value woman gave them a chance so they become emboldened enough to feed their fragile egos and broken inner child with toxic power, and then they apply that power onto us as a form of revenge. NEVER devalue yourself or accept anyone below you out of pity or coercion. These pathological men will never treat anyone well and they will never change. They are entitled and dangerous!
Yes yes yes.
I gave a good guy, nerd a chance, and he really tried me.
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I hear ya! I’m glad you cut him off!
Five rules:
1-Treat people how you wish to be treated.
2-Expectations lead to disappointments.
3-When love isn’t even, that’s lust.
4-True love is like fine wine, takes time to develop.
5-You always want,what you can’t have.. practice gratitude.
Logic over emotion is the general rule of thumb,
If you aren’t getting the results you want it’s generally because you’re following emotions.. thank Disney for that.
Thanks . I appreciate when a man shows what he learned from content created by a woman. Comments are much like a conversation. When someone seems like they didn’t listen to what you said, and just want to share what they think, they appear low in emotional intelligence. Like “Whoo-hoo let me show what I know 🤡” But when a man takes the time to absorb the ideas a woman presents, shows the ability to listen, engage on the topic at hand and her perspective, and then build on it – you’re looking at a real leader.
words to live by
Wow this was an excellent comment. Thank you
I AGREE VERY LOGICAL COMMENT A LOT OF US NEED TO HEAR . I HAVE TO POST THIS ALL OVER SORRY 😊
@@shannonm3021 Yes! I appreciate that he really listened to the video and got so much from it.
I went from being a “desperate girl” I didn’t beg because the men came easily for me but I over gave in love even financially..10 years fast forward at the age of 40 I became the dream girl met a high value physician I was working with we got married and I’m so healthy and grounded! BUT I did a lot of shadow and inner work those 5 years were lonely and painful but the transition of leveling up was the best thing that ever happened to me..God is good
You need to write a blog or a video vlog about your journey….if you kept a diary or journal for those 10 years…soooo many young women would benefit and you could actually change their lives….xo…a 67 year old mom and wife and grandmother who wishes this wisdom for her girls and grand daughters.
Love this!!👏👏👏🔥🔥🔥
Gotta love yourself first!
Am very proud of you.Congratulations.I was once like that ,I used to have extreme limerance for men I wasn’t even attracted to initially but I worked on myself and now am a dream wife
Same here for me bless you ❤
I have noticed that even when men see someone as wifey material, this is not good necessarily. It can be because they found someone easy to handle and someone who can take care of them without asking too much.
That makes you the good enough girl
@@ErikaJenkins1973 Not necessarily,
there’s a middle category
Nope thats exactly what a good enough girl is… low maintenance. watch the video again. @@SassyyjuicyMaria
Exactly
RAISE YOUR PRICE VIDEO IS UP NOW!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TyG-FiLJb58
More video on the dream girl. How do they behave
yeah no, anyone who can resent someone they supposedly adore never had good intention.
Omg, the point about the “free frozen yogurt sample” is so true! This is why some men act so offended/disgusted when their “free sample” girl asks them for anything – he only accepted her because she was free/low effort, so how dare she ask him to contribute something now? So important for women to know this stuff and to not chase men who treat them like a free sample lol!
I’ve never been anyone’s dream girl. I hope I can experience that fully one day.
Your genuineness is refreshing. Almost everyone else here is claiming to be an out of his league girl. 😅
Much feel good
I understand. Been there done that.
When you are willing to go through every adversity and keep your respect – NO MATTER WHAT – then probably that would be your reality !!
BTW .. me too in same boat.. Am stuck !!
Wish had seen this kinda video before 😢
Crazy how you can go from the out of their league girl to the desperate girl in a year’s time in a relationship. They start off worshipping you, get you hooked on their love and affection, then the subtle changes and negging begins. Now you’re the one constantly reaching out trying to figure out what went wrong. When in reality he just wanted to knock you down a peg so the roles can reverse before you realize he’s just not good enough for you. That’s why it’s so important to know your worth and know how valuable you truly are. Stay safe ladies!
This was my story two years ago. God 😢😢😢😢
My current relationship.