HOW TO SPEAK ELEGANTLY | Conversation Mistakes to Avoid | Speak like a Lady
Ladies, did you know people judge us immediately by the way we speak?
People can assume all kinds of things from our level of education, social class and how well or ill mannered we are.
In this video, I take you through 14 crucial points that you must take on board if you want to portray an image of respectability and class when speaking.
How we speak is so important. If you make certain mistakes, it can cost you the image that you have worked so hard to acquire.
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This is your most didactic video yet. The topoc placements and the instructions are so specific I actually was inspired to take notes. The tip about breaking the eye contact monotony was inspired! Looking away and pretending to cough etc . That’s not easily thought of. And it is commendable you added that training is required. The same way a woman trains her body so it tapers and refines to what she wants it to project, so much more must she train for how her speaking conveys. Excellent video again
Manners,manners
This us great, I just subscribed for more of it. Thanks for sharing
Watch you for the first time. You are doing a great job keep it up..blessiings
Right
That’s the problem I have. And Feel like I’m rude by interrupting.
My boyfriend said that I have a crass and unladylike way of speaking. I never was told this before so I am going to try really hard to work on it. It’s really sad for me to realize these were things that I never learned and it was never brought to my attention
People sometimes are a reflection of their network And circle. Your BFs comment is out of love and concern.
Your comment is well written. Be blessed
When the student is ready, the teacher appears.
His comment could also be him trying to create an insecurity with negative intent . but that’s for her to figure out . learn this if you want to and use it when you want 2
@@queenliloxox Exactly. While knowing this, he proceeded to being her boyfriend. All of the proper etiquette really doesnt matter in the end…overall happiness within is what really counts. Everything else is just to please people in the world, and they can turn their back on you in a heartbeat.
Please speak about the importance of (and how) to mantain elegancy even within your home. Many times we tend to lose that especially in our comfort zone – worst if we live on our own. Elegancy is not for show but it is a lifestyle.
~Jamaica🇯🇲
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Yea Tassia
Especially with your kids, yelling and bring agitated brings out the worst!
Oh my god you just called me out. When I’m out I am more conscious of my behaviour but not in the comfort of my own home.
@@ka.ariyah true
I struggle with interrupting others, I have recognized that but the reason I do it is because I know that I’ll forget what I want to say in response to their conversation, so I have a little book to make notes in and share my thoughts during a break in our dialog
I have this issue and I realized it’s because I’m thinking of how to respond instead of intently listening that this happens. When you intently listen you’re response is always better than half listening and thinking of what you were about to say. I really hate being interrupted so I try my best to just listen and realize not everything needs responding to
That’s crazy because I am the same. I’ve been working on it. Listening is more important than speaking.
If you’re focusing on what you’re gonna say then you’re not listening. Completely forget about what you were gonna say, that’s how you become a good listener.
You’re not alone. Me too. It’s a very bad habit that I’ve been trying to break. It’s not that I’m not intentionally trying to be rude- regardless of my intentions, it offends people , and it has to stop
Thank you for the suggestion.
Elegant women are poetic, and they leave lasting impressions 👏👏
I can’t be the only one who listened till the end, because I love the way she spoke
😆😆same here
*You must be one of the few lol…*
_To me unless it’s a vid like fixing a car issue or a specific recipe am following, you rarely can get me to just watch such a vid from start to finish. And especially if it is longer than 10 minutes! No way._
I like to scroll real quick down and a lot of times I get lucky; always one person who feels the need to put a time stamp summary! You have no idea how much i LOOOOOOVE these people! Even if there is no time stamp, just the points in summary. Kinda like when you go watch a music video and someone has taken the trouble to copy and paste the entire lyrics! Oh, i love ‘em!*
I agree 💯💯
Me too. 😃😃😃.
At a point I had to check if I was actually watching everything 😃😃😃
😅😅😅🙋🏾♀️😍😍😍
Listening is probably the most important element of good communication.
As a Public Speaking Coach and speaker, I agree with you 100%. I just liked, shared, and subscribed to your channel. I love it! Keep up the good work.
Hi@Susan Nwokedi I request to talk to you.
Please can you coach me on how to speak in the public
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For the love of God, and Men and healthy heterosexual relationships, ladies please DO NOT lower your voices…….that is it wise , a prince is not looking for a princess that sounds like a man 🎩
Do not lower your tone. Not good “general advice”. While this may be helpful to a minority of women in business or work, certainly will not help her secure a good man who is looking for a women that actually sounds like a women who by nature have non lowered voices
“…don’t continue to rant on for minutes on end…people will start avoiding you.” ITS SO TRUE! I avoid people who talk too much and don’t actively listen. It’s exhausting listening to people who talk and talk and talk. Thank you for this video!
Amen.
Nah cuz I used to do dis and one day I was doing it to someone and she literally left like she just nodded and walked away💀
😩 Dang.
👍👍👍👍 I get bored with people that talks too much….
Specially if they’re always saying something negative or always complaining 🫠
I’m 50 and I’m trying to level up every area of my life. Including my education. Thank you for this, it is so needed in this day and time.
same here…. we shall get there..Glad that there are like-minded ladies like you who believe in learning, re-learning and unlearning
Me too dear.
Wow people in your age struggle more with changing their self. Congratulations!
I don’t know you but you’re amazing
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My father had a teacher that always said “if you find that you resort to swearing, that means your vocabulary isn’t big enough”.
I personally think that instead of swearing, it’s better to take a second to think about the message you’re trying to express. Obvious, but underrated tip.
Yes!! 😍 I love using vocabulary. It a good way to develop witty humor
I agree and disagree. Many of us have fantastic vocabulary. We just LOVE to curse
Loss of control?
Right, you can insult people with more creative ways. Without them knowing even.
@@mementomori1022 How?
Ladies remember not to judge others because that’s most important!
I am a guy, but I took a lot from this to practice for everyday speaking.
I had to share this content with three female friends cause I couldn’t be selfish to keep it. Thank you so much for this content.🙌🏾
All the way from west Africa Liberia, 🇱🇷 you’re my female mentor 😊
is there any channel for men?
People interrupting me when I talk is the MOST frustrating thing! I am an introvert, so I don’t talk about trivial items or chat just to talk – I have something to say. So when someone interrupts me, I register that as a sign that what I am saying is not interesting or they aren’t listening to me. That is a great way for me to rarely speak to that person or keep what I speak to them about very surface level. I find it highly disrespectful to be cut off mid-sentence as though what I am saying doesn’t matter. This video needs to be is most women’s weekly video rotation. We can all be better at speaking and listening. Love the Hemmingway quote! Thank you for this rich content!
“Most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand… don’t be this person” This truly spoke to me, thank you! I struggle with interrupting my friends so much, when I catch myself I IMMEDIATELY apologize and tell them to please say something next time bc it’s something in trying to work on.. but it’s still so hard for me I don’t understand WHY. I’m working on healing this toxic habit, and this video really spoke to me thank you!
Same
As a gentleman, i must admit that “liberation” gave room to “degradation”. We pride ourselves in being free, but we have become slaves of a system that degrades us, reducing our self-worth. I love how you make it a point to incarnate elegance with your behavior and poise. Cheers to you!!
You’ve perfectly described our current society. I couldn’t agree more
That’s so deep.
ITS A DIFFERENT ECONOMIC TIME.
women had to “lower themselves” because men own properties.
1. you stay home forever with parents 2. you get married
you could not tell any man; to go kick rocks.
I am all for civility with both sexes. We all know how to be nice.
But when the moral police and the elegance police shows up. its concerning. THOSE PEOPLE will turn our world into a “Black Mirror” episode.
“liberation” came about because the prior way was suffocating. if that demographic was happy. = no change would have occur. 1+1 =2
Frankly, society did not benefit from it. = just look at the volume of wars .
everyone was elegant, yet wars and riots were every 4 seconds🤣😅
great things from this woman, so much advice !! but we know that lots of things doesn’t end up at conversations but somewhere else. then comes relationship, sometimes a few quarells but lots of men think of sex… i don’t know who taught them but it’s like that, i think most of them or all of them. one even forced spanish fly drops on me, just how it feels for women? but i have to admit that the expereince was absolute top, top
A lot of this takes me back to childhood. I was raised to be a “Lady”. I would get punished for speaking too loud, using slang, improper grammar, sitting improperly, unnecessary running, bad table manners and a host of other things that were considered “unladylike”. The other kids teased me for being “prissy” but as I got older I saw the value in being considered a “Lady”. I’ll always be thankful to mother. I’ve found it especially useful as a Black woman. Thank you for taking this on and teaching others the value of poise and presentation.
I was accused of being White. 😊
Absolutely love this channel! You don’t need money to have elegance, manners are worth their weight in gold!
HOW TO SPEAK WITH ELEGANCE
1. don’t use fillers
2. speak in a measured tone
3. vary your pace and tone
4. don’t raise your voice
5. don’t speak too much
6. maintain eye contact but don’t stare in a bizarre manner/don’t interrupt
7. avoid excessive use of hand gestures
8. avoid the use of slang
9. never use profanities
10. don’t be monotone
11. don’t be stiff. smile and be expressive
12. show your listener you are actively listening and not passively listening
13. widen your vocabulary
14. don’t cackle with laughter
Thank you for listing these its very helpful