STOP MAKING THESE CONVERSATION MISTAKES! | Speak Elegantly | Improve your Conversation Skills
Conversation is a sure fire way to reveal a lot about yourself- whether positive or negative. It's one thing to judge someone on their appearance- perhaps they had a bad hair day or it was just one of 'those days'. You can redeem yourself by dressing better next time. However, when it comes to conversing, oftentimes there is little space for error. You can't take words back! So can you see why the way you speak is of utmost importance?
In this video I dive deeper into technical aspects of conversation. Many of the things mentioned are done subconsciously and you can easily train yourself to improve these traits. Join me in this video where I explore 8 conversation mistakes you'd do well to stop making.
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Dear Vivienne, I can’t express enough how much these tips are helpful! As someone whose first language is not English I find your videos educational. Your way of speaking is something I aspire to.
@Katarina Stepanovic your comment is written in perfect English.
Agreed
I usually say good morning, good afternoon, or good evening, depending on the time of day. I never use hey as a greeting. Maybe age has something to do with it. USA
Exactly. Hey is super casual and only used with close friends and some family members that you are familiar with.
In America we hardly ever say pleased to meet you… We say nice to meet you. Pleased to meet you comes across too formal over here
I often say “pleased to meet you” or “it was a pleasure to meet you”, but then I’m old!🤣
We also don’t greet people as “Hey”….NO IDEA where she got that from🤯
Not really, I think it just depends on what you’re used to. I’ve been saying the latter since I was little. ☀️
@@lorrainea.285 Right! We usually say “Hi” Which is the shortened version of Hello.
No, we in the U.S. really don’t say, “Hey” as a greeting, at least not to anyone we aren’t on close terms with. Even then, “Hey” is immediately followed by the person’s name.
In the older crowd, when we were children we would say, “Hey [Name]!” to get a classmate’s or friend’s attention — not to greet them — and our teachers and parents would correct us by saying, “Hay is for horses!” (even though hay and Hey are different words). It sounded impolite to them.
When I say “How are you?” , which I don’t say often, it is always followed by silence. Needless to say; people get a little uncomfortable realizing that I am actually waiting on an answer from them; to tell me how they are. I never liked when “how are you?” is being used as a greeting. But, say no more, I like “Are you well?” And will start using it!
Oh wow, same here! I’d literally be waiting for a reply, because when someone asks me how I am, I always answer. Sometimes I feel like just being a kid again when everything was much simpler!
I think asking are you well also depends on where you live. In my country, it will sound awkward like “ you look sick”
The few times I’ve said “how are you” as a greeting I’ve never gotten a response which is why I avoid it now.
Your voice conveys so much confidence, it shines your elegance ✨✨✨
You ooze elegance effortlessly. Your videos are educative.
I am not a lady but I learn a lots when I hear you speak. Thank you Vivienne
In western USA, many people choose casual “hey” or “Hello.” I prefer to say “Good morning/afternoon/evening”. It communicates respect and helps the recipient know that I appreciate the same.
Same here! I think it’s more refreshing
1. Use the correct greetings based on which country you reside in.
Avoid asking “How are you?”you should ask “How have you been.” Stop saying “Nice to meet you.” instead say “pleased to meet you”
2. Stop rumbling. Be brief and concise. Think before speaking.
3. Dont pretend to know something. If you dont know something ask for more information. Dont be ashamed.
4. Avoid hostile attribution bias. Stop assuming or suspecting people based on their behaviour.
5. Keep it neutral and simple. Avoid taking sides.
6. Avoid forcing humor in conversation. keeps jokes and humor to a minimum.
7. When speaking to people strive to discern their level of interest and adjust accordingly.
8.Using repetitive vocal intonation. Change your tone and emphasise on the right words to give the statement more meaning.
Thanks
Depending on if it’s somebody, I know very well. I’ll say hello. What’s new in your world?
@@maddybee4523 I like this .
I am a man, but I just subscribed to your channel. I find most of your tips applicable to anyone who wishes to level up. This would be a much better world if we all applied your wise counsel. Thank you for trying to make a difference.
Thanks for being here!
Agreed. ❤
English is my second language, even though I Speak , read and have conversations in English for a few years now. I’ve noticed I haven’t improve my vocabulary as much. This year I’m focused on becoming more eloquent.
I agree with u.
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In the case of forcing humour, that also goes for forcing sexual conversation if it’s someone you’re romantically inclined with or attracted to because that’s a real turn off for many people
Men do that on dates so the time say weird content sexual stuff
Then if u don’t laugh they cal u to serious
It’s just weird why would I talk bout sex if the women literally just met u
Somtimes I think to my self men think talking bout sec wil
Make us want se X ,?
1. Not using the correct greeting
2. Rambling
3. Pretending to know something you don’t
4. Allowing hostile attribution bias to get the best of you
5. Not keeping it neutral and civil
6. Forcing humor in conversation
7. Assuming a level of interest in what you are saying
8. Using repetitive vocal inflections
Thank you very much. I was looking for someone to sum this up
Wow… the part where she said..”when asked a question..think carefully.. before giving an answer”…it got me.
Thank you!
As a 68-year-old American woman I can tell you that ‘hey’ is very informal and should never be used with people outside one’s very casual circle of friends, if at all. I’m afraid I do say ‘how are you’, but I will try ‘how’ve you been’ instead. Same with nice/pleased to meet you. I enjoy your channel–new subscriber!
The example of I didn’t say he stole the bag is a great way to explain different ways of understanding what was said
Hi, I just wanted to say that a lot of times the words I choose for greetings are words that my listener can understand. Often people in India (where I live) don’t understand my accent. So they can understand “How are you?” but not “How have you been?”
I’m from the USA, and I always consider ‘hey’ as an informal greeting that’s reserved for family and friends. Once, a man who works in my building, greeted me by saying “hey”. I responded with “hello”. I remember feeling a little insulted by this overly familiar greeting.
Dear Vivienne, I recently subscribed to your channel but I have to say that I’m obsessed with watching your videos. I’m 73 but I love to learn, I also like to make sure that what “I think I know” is correct. I find your videos so interesting and helpful to everyone, not only women. Thank you for all the work you do to bring us these videos ❤